Advice

[theswag]

theres this girl i have been talking to for a while. she has liked me for a while, and i have liked her for a while. i love her and i would like to go out with her, but there is one problem. she likes to party alot, while i dont party, pretty much at all. she likes to get buzzed, and i dont want her to. I told her the other day, if we start dating, she has to give it up. She will be a sophomore, and i will be a junior...but thats not the problem.

Am i being unreasonable? is it wrong of me to ask her to not get drunk when she parties? i just dont want her to get so drunk that she dont remember anything, or what she did. she parties with some questionable people, and i dont trust them around her when she is faded....

What should i do?

[BelfryPride]

This girl sounds well, kinda trashy. I mean if you want her go ahead. But, I think you will be setting yourself up for disappointment if you expect her to change.

[theswag]

she aint trashy.... she is a nice girl from a good family, but the people she parties with are trashy.

[BelfryPride]

Well, the people she hangs with are a bad influence on her. If you see this girl, you may get caught up in the same ways. I'm no Dr.Phil, but I have lived alot longer than most of you and already been through those same type situations.

[crazytaxidriver]

This girl isn't goin to change until she wants to change.. So no matter what you say or do is goin to help her.. Plus if she will only be a sophomore, then she is too young to be goin to parties and getting trashed. Her parents should be a little more concerned about her.. but if you really like her, and if she really likes you, then what you should do is instead of goin to parties. take her somewhere else and show her a fun time. There isn't much to do around here except go to parties.. But that's where you have to use your imagination.. I'm not goin to say it won't work, but don't fall head over heels right off the bat.. Because it will end up ugly..

[theswag]

She aint like an alcoholic or anything.... and she only does it on weekends, which is not all the time, but still too much.

[crazytaxidriver]

You are right.. for her age once a month is too much.. the fact is she shouldn't be doing this stuff and such a young age.. Her goin to parties basically tells me that she is being introduced to things at too early an age. and you said the people she hangs out with are shady. So in that case, she needs to be really careful about what she does.. and if you really like her you will tell her that..

[football05]

Man you cant change/help someone if they wont change/ help their self..So take that into consideration, and maybe its not as bad as you think dude. She might want you to come party some with her?

[CNN]

Once she gets pregnant she'll give all that stuff, don't worry about her.

[theswag]

Once she gets pregnant she'll give all that stuff, don't worry about her.

If i could forget about her, i would... i even have DREAMS about her... i care about her too much.

[BlueGrassGirl]

Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel about what she does. Obviously she is too young to be drinking and partying so much. Where are her parents? It seems like she is a good kid but may have some psychological/self esteem problems/issues.
I hope it works out for you but honestly if it doesnt, it wont matter. Both of you are really young and you've got your whole life to find a good person.

[theswag]

Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel about what she does. Obviously she is too young to be drinking and partying so much. Where are her parents? It seems like she is a good kid but may have some psychological/self esteem problems/issues.
I hope it works out for you but honestly if it doesnt, it wont matter. Both of you are really young and you've got your whole life to find a good person.

Her parents dont know... i think.

[CNN]

Don't tell her parents, that will end the doing like that.