[oneijoe]

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To be quite honest you lost me on the whole dirt vs. grass infield thing. ...

If you don't understand that part of it, there's no wonder you see this issue the way you do.

Title IX says the facilities should be roughly equivalent to that provided the equivalent boy's sport. In this case, it means the girl's facility should have lights, bleachers, press box & powered scorboard, and concessions (as does the baseball field).

It's not about wanting some sort kind of "special" treatment...