[ComfortEagle]

I agree that this isn't the case in all foster homes but how horrible would it be to live 4-5 years just to be beaten and abused and ultimately die at the hands of bad foster parents?



If they have a perfect foster system and could adopt to wonderful parents then by all means do it. I don't think we will ever have that though. To much government interaction and to little government action.

I agree with Midee, the world doesn't look too great if you're getting abused all the time, or if you're depressed because you're being bounced from home to home and feeling like no one loves you.

Here is a story from a 34 year old adoptee:

"My mother didn't do such a good thing by putting me up for adoption, in fact it was something that she didn't even want to do, but she didn't have any other choice. You might be interested in doing some reading into the "Baby Scoop Era" and how single pregnant women were treated. It's pretty sad.

What's really sad is, it hasn't completely disappeared. There are still pregnant teenage girls who aren't given any choice but to come home without their baby or not come home at all. Not much of a choice, is it?

I wish I could agree and say that adoption WAS a good thing for me, but since I have found and know my biological family, I can say with 100% certainty that it wasn't. I wasn't "saved" from anything, I wouldn't have been abused, neglected or starved, my mother would NEVER have aborted me or thrown me in a dumpster, and in fact, my biological parents got married 6 months after I was born. I would have lived a very normal life with a very normal family with my very normal full brother and extended family.

And the effects of giving me away on my mother? I won't get into that, but just to say that 34 years later and she still can't come to terms with it. Not even after reunion. It was devastating to her.

Of course she's not a bad person; she was just powerless against societal attitudes and family and agency pressure."